Come and get your love

Posted by on Oct 5, 2011 in Celebration, Connections, Inspiration, Love, Virtual Assistance, Wholehearted | 2 comments

Last year AssistU’s Community Recognition Awards were held in Reston, VA and Anastacia  aptly renamed the event Homecoming. I knew after a year of caretaking responsibilities I desperately needed to attend in order to rejuvenate myself and to give and receive love, hugs, and laughter. My experience although wonderful was that I wasn’t really present for the event—I was worried about my mom and how she and my family were handling my absence. Unfortunately not well and even though there was nothing I could do about that I struggled with feelings of guilt and selfishness amidst the outpouring of love I received from my virtual family. After connecting virtually for over a year I met Beatrice Ten-Thye (whom my aunt in Canada had referred to me and AssistU) at that event which made every negative thought and doubt flee in the joy and happiness of our connection. That’s what Homecoming is about! In the groovy words of of the ultimate Native American rock band, Redbone, “Come and get your love.” I traveled to distant cities three times this year (huge for this homebody) and had not budgeted for a trip to San Diego in September. I waivered and listed pros and cons and sat on the fence whining about the view. Then I spoke to my childhood friend, we met in the Bahamas when we were ten, who has lived in San Diego for ten years and raved about it, but I had never visited her new city. I heard the excitement in her voice when I told her our community in person event would be held there and that I was considering coming. She really wanted me to come but she also said it was the perfect place to hold our Homecoming event. That decided me. The attraction of an old friend sharing her beloved city was the kick in the butt I needed to create the resources of time, finances, and energy to make it happen. I had been focusing on what it would cost me to go instead of what it would pay me to go. That’s what Homecoming is about, “Come and get your love.” When I arrived at the restaurant for the educational portion of the event (a most excellent addition) I was greeted in the foyer by dearly familiar faces that I have met over the past five years of CRA events. We rush to hug, quite often we scream or jump up and down with joy! And then a tiny blonde woman came up to me and said, “Laura? It’s Lisa!” My latest lovely intern from Colorado—we had just spent the past two months working together and getting to know each other. Oh, how wonderful it is to go from vugs (virtual hugs) to warm, tight, long, loving HUGS! That’s what Homecoming is about, “Come and get your love.”               Bumper sticker we received at Homecoming! 🙂 I made my way through this crowd of twenty-five or so women and then recognized (only because we had finally Skyped together the past week) another dear friend I’d never met. Karen interned with me four years ago when she graduated AssistU’s Virtual Training Program. She had delayed starting her business until this year to support her parents and her in-laws, and moved to two States in the process. We were there for each other when we were caretakers for our moms and became very close. Joy of joys to hug dear Karen and look into her eyes and smile from my soul. That’s what Homecoming is about, “Come and get your love.” When hands...

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Rachael Rocks!

Posted by on Sep 26, 2011 in Celebration, Connections, Travel, Virtual Assistance, Wholehearted | 0 comments

AssistU now calls our annual Community Recognition Awards Homecoming. This years Homecoming was hosted in San Diego and I have just returned from a fabulous week in an awesome city. Our own Rachael Davila co-ordinated the event for her Certified Professional Virtual Assistant (CPVA) project and went ALL out for every aspect of the events—from our 'goody bag' at the educational portion on Friday to her dad's paticipation as official photographer and videographer at the awards luncheon.     Me & Bea in our hats at Hotel Del. Rachael specializes in email marketing and promotional products and is a truly dedicated and talented Virtual Assistant. I'm biased because I already knew she rocked but now the entire community knows! Check out these brilliant promotional products she donated; tissue packet, magentized to-do-list, and I especially liked the tic-tac box in her logo colors with a pocket to slide in her business card. Thank you Rach for all you give to this wonderful community, and for all your hard work on this spectacular event! You are deeply loved and appreciated my friend and I am so happy to see you come into your own. Big congrats on your CPVA! You ROCK Rach! Rachael and her wonderful dad, Nowell....

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Enough already!

Posted by on Sep 7, 2011 in Authenticity, Celebration, Challenges, Healing, Moving your body, Self worth, Wholehearted | 1 comment

This post is long overdue. Until this moment I was hesitant to write it and be authentic and vulnerable. I had eagerly anticipated our final bootcamp session at CrossFit on August 19th. That evening we bootcamp ladies and our coaches met for drinks and appetizers each of us stylin’ and unrecognizable to the others out of our workout clothes. Prizes were awarded to participants who had worked their butts off (literally!) and the results spoke volumes. Yes, I was happy for my classmates’ success but I was disappointed in myself. This is a repeat lesson for me.  I did my best but could have done better—my best wasn’t good enough. How did it become so ingrained in me not to celebrate my successes but to actually refuse to acknowledge their existence by beating myself up for an imagined expectation? I wallowed for a week. Then I realized I was using unhappiness to motivate myself. To do what? Try harder or quit.  The way I felt it was more likely I’d give up. As I wrestled with that demon I had another ‘aha’ moment. I was wallowing and beating myself up not only because I was disappointed in myself but because I was back full circle at this lesson again.  I’d dealt with this not enough issue over and over why was it back? Because I had dealt with it, put it to bed, made peace with it in those other scenarios—not this one. Ahhh. Got it. I wasn’t dealing with actually feeling not enough in this situation but what my feelings triggered when I first decided I was not enough. Oh, breakthroughs are incredibly freeing when they dazzle you with their shiny wisdom.  And I was buying into that belief again because I’d forgotten I had a choice.  With this awakening I chose a different way—no I don’t want to wallow in unhappiness, no I don’t like self-sabotaging myself, no I don’t want to quit, no I don’t want to live as though I am not enough. I choose to let go of expectation and be in the now and celebrate where I am. A human ‘bean’ with human issues like feeling and believing I’m not enough when those unworthy feelings are triggered. I could also delve into what ‘enough’ means to me but for now it is enough to know I am enough. Let me say that again: I am enough. Just. As. I. Am. Advanced Bootcamp begins next Monday and I will be there with my sneakers laced, my spirits high, and my expectations left…well I won’t leave them behind—I won’t give them life or breath to begin...

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Back to the basics

Posted by on Aug 16, 2011 in Celebration, Challenges, Connections, Inspiration, Love, Self worth | 1 comment

There’s a wise saying that goes something like, you teach what you most need to learn. In this instance I wasn’t teaching but sharing a practice my friend and I learned almost twenty-five years ago: happiness is a choice. My friend was stuck in a negative loop with her family wanting them to be happy but choosing to be unhappy because they were.  We sat together for several hours and reminded ourselves of the basics of what we knew but had forgotten to practice: Be the change you want to see.If you want happiness in your life be happy. Be happy first.Not once you get something or somewhere—circumstances and others do not create happiness—we choose to be happy. Don’t take another’s unhappiness or judgments personally.It’s not all about YOU. Let the unhappy person own their own unhappiness don’t accept responsibility for it. Happiness is empowering and clarifying.You can see exactly where you want to go and what actions will take you there. Happiness works with the law of attraction The energy you expend is what will be reflected back to you—positive or negative it’s your choice. Change your thoughts, change your lifeThat statement may seem Pollyannaish but in my experience it is absolute truth. When I change the way I look at things, the things I look at change (Wayne Dyer). My friend doubted she could choose happiness in the maelstrom of unhappiness she was engulfed in.  As she shared her fears I was reminded that it’s our humanness to cling to our beliefs: it’s hard to be happy, or to blame someone else, or to react instead of respond. As humans we get invested in being right instead of loving. Choosing happiness is choosing love—for yourself and everyone else involved.  Ghandi’s wise words could not be more empowering: Be the change you want to see. A note to my deeply loved friend: you are the happiest person I know, the way you live your life inspires me to live my best life, thank you for your trust, thank you for re-minding me of the basics, I needed to hear these wise words again and re-live the lesson I lived over and over with mom and am still living—give up being right and be loving. Many wise souls have summed up their wisdom in a few basic words: Love is the answer. Love is the key.  Love in action. The greatest of these is love.  You always remind me that love always wins so I’ll re-mind you— love always wins. All...

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That’s Awesome!

Posted by on Aug 5, 2011 in Authenticity, Books, Celebration, Inspiration | 0 comments

Neil Pasricha explains in the foreword of his book The Book of Awesome that he was a boring nine-to-five guy who started a little website called 1000 Awesome Things and he got excited when his traffic doubled because his mom forwarded the link to his dad. “With so much sad news and bad news pouring down on us, it’s fun to stop for a minute and share a universal high five with the rest of humanity.” My favorite so far is on page 172:  “Discovering those little tabs on the side of the aluminum foil box.” After a lifetime of unrolling the entire roll of tinfoil I have discovered this piece of awesomeness that I never knew existed. It made me grin. Thanks...

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Nods that knock your socks off

Posted by on Aug 2, 2011 in Authenticity, Celebration, Connections, Virtual Assistance | 0 comments

You never really know the impact you make on other people unless of course they share directly. But actions speak louder than words. They echo off the mountaintops don’t they? My Virtual Assistance community AssistU hosts an annual Community Recognition Awards and I was nominated for Most Supportive Community Member and also Virtual Assistant of the Year. Wow! I recently wrote about accepting the gift of a compliment with grace and positivity. Here’s my opportunity to put love into action: I’m honored. I’m awed. I’m touched. I’m blown away by your support, belief, and love. I am thrilled to be in such stellar company as these amazing VAs: VA of the Year nominees:Heather HinsonPat MatsonLaura AllenMonique CunninghamAlicia MooreSusan SullivanRachael DavilaLarissa ParksBeatrice Ten-ThyeKyle Sheldon-ChandlerKaren ClevelandSharon BroughtonGinger DerricksonKim GrayLorri MorinSarah NeumannSandra Trca-Black Most Supportive Community Member of the Year:Lauray WalshHeather HinsonAntonette ArtizAnne Marie FergusonKristy SchnabelPat MatsonKathy WatkinsErin WentworthJeri JensenLaura AllenMerri TaylorRachael DavilaLarissa ParksBeatrice Ten-ThyeKelly MorrisonKyle Sheldon-ChandlerKaren ClevelandKaren Brockman Thank you. Truly. Madly. Deeply. I love this...

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